that what happened left lasting scars is some sort of failing on my part
I know, and other people feed into that, like one should be able to just get over it -- and that's nuts.
I mean, if we were talking about the predictable, ongoing physical symptoms and ramifications of a physical assault, nobody (including ourselves) would suggest that we were weak for living with them, dealing with them daily; in fact, we'd be seen as brave. But talk about the predictable, ongoing psychological symptoms and ramifications of assault, and we tell ourselves "I'm weak because I'm not over it."
No. No, we're fucking not. We're human. And if we can still get up, and face the world, and have hope, and faith, and risk reaching out to others in spite of it all, we're amazing.
::hugs you again::
(Also, I've had your LJ bookmarked for years, because I was too shy [read "terrified of strangers"] to let you know I was there. DTTE owns my heart. May I friend?)
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that what happened left lasting scars is some sort of failing on my part
I know, and other people feed into that, like one should be able to just get over it -- and that's nuts.
I mean, if we were talking about the predictable, ongoing physical symptoms and ramifications of a physical assault, nobody (including ourselves) would suggest that we were weak for living with them, dealing with them daily; in fact, we'd be seen as brave. But talk about the predictable, ongoing psychological symptoms and ramifications of assault, and we tell ourselves "I'm weak because I'm not over it."
No. No, we're fucking not. We're human. And if we can still get up, and face the world, and have hope, and faith, and risk reaching out to others in spite of it all, we're amazing.
::hugs you again::
(Also, I've had your LJ bookmarked for years, because I was too shy [read "terrified of strangers"] to let you know I was there. DTTE owns my heart. May I friend?)